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Obsessed Podcast

Driven Relationships with Evan and Brittany Stewart

By February 20, 2020 No Comments

Evan and Brittany sit down to discuss healthy relationships, how two intensely driven individuals can drive together instead of drive apart, and answer your questions!

SHOW NOTES:

How do you keep the line of communication open when you or you spouse process information differently?

  • Speak up and ask if you are not truly understanding what your spouse or partner is trying to communicate with you.

  • Don’t let your ego get in the way of clear communication.

  • Understand how your partner interprets information, and phrase what needs to be said within a framework your partner will best understand.

 

What love languages do you have, and what does that look like?

  • Evan – First love language is physical touch.

  • Brittany First love language is words of affirmation.

  • Make an effort to provide love and appreciation in a way that plays into your partner’s main love language.

How do you bring a spouse into your business, and include them more?

  • Start with asking if your spouse wants to be involved.

  • Define where your spouse actually fits in in your company, and find them a place based on their professional acumen, not just because you want them to work with you.

    • Ask “how can this potentially work,” and break down your spouse’s or partner’s unique strengths and gifts from there, and how they apply to your organizations’ structure.

What are your thoughts on a separate or joint bank account / who controls the money?

  • It’s not about control, it’s about communication.

  • An inability to offer clarity and transparency into your bank account can often hide a deeper problem.

  • If you don’t have a joint account, you should at least have access

How do you keep your spouse feeling included and appreciated among hectic work schedules?

  • Presence. If you’re needed to be in a specific space, you should be present in that space; put down the phone, close the computer, and be truly present.

  • Continue to engage in the things that keep you human and grounded. Watching a show together, relaxing together, traveling together–don’t ever feel that you need to avoid those things that allow you and your partner to relax and unwind together, as they can truly be a strong glue among crazy schedules in the relationship.

When you have what is deemed a “workaholic work ethic,” how do you ensure the relationship doesn’t suffer?

  • “Workaholic” is a term the lazy and unmotivated invented to justify their complacency.

  • Communication is key. If you’re going to be working crazy schedules that keep you away from your spouse for a period of time, you need to be truly intentional about communicating your why and timeline on how long you’re going to be working in that capacity.

  • If you’re the spouse that doesn’t have the crazy schedule, allow grace and space for your partner to work how they need to, instead of dumping on them in a hard season of intense push forward.